My quote comes from page 316 of the Cruz reading.

“I would argue that the possibility of mutuality of interests and needs implied in the concept of reciprocal learning could be more easily realized if it were not tied to any notion of service.”

How does the balance of powers shift in a relationship between two people when servicing another is involved?

Service according to our definition implies that one person is superior to the other when servicing their partner. This question raises concerns of respect within the partnership whether it be personal or in the community. In addition, we could have looked into gender roles. Is it the man that is always dominating? Is it the person servicing or the person receiving that is in power? Our question is important because it leads into the previous question.

The balance of power is affected when sex is brought into a relationship due to emotions and attachment. Ideally, both partners would have an equal balance in power. It could cause tension, vulnerability, eagerness to trust, and a debt that one partner feels they owe to the other.

In this context, the idea of service can be seen as negative. Is service a good thing in regards to the partnership if it is not balanced?