My quote comes from page 316 of the Cruz reading.

“I would argue that the possibility of mutuality of interests and needs implied in the concept of reciprocal learning could be more easily realized if it were not tied to any notion of service.”

The author would argue that volunteers and the people in need of help would both be more satisfied and get what they wanted if the volunteers were not focused on serving the people. Cruz believes in reciprocal learning. Both the volunteers and the people “in need” should be sharing a positive experience in which both sides truly understand each other and what each side wants and needs.

Our definition of service is: “also of a man, to have sexual intercourse with (a woman).” This could also apply to same-sex couples. This definition is functioning in the Cruz quote because when two people are having sex, it would be ideal for the two people to have mutual feelings about pleasing each other and how they want to be pleased. They should want to have fun exploring, instead of feeling that there must be a specific outcome of the sexual experience. They shouldn’t feel like they have to be having sex with their partner or “serving” their partners sexual needs. They should be doing it because they want to and need to. This definition of “service” implies mutual understanding and giving.